Finding Your Lifestyle Change Motivation
There’s a common belief going around the lifestyle-building and self-improvement fields that although long-term change takes months and years of work and habit-building, change itself actually happens in a single instant: that moment you find whatever it is inside that makes you decide once and for all that you are going to change your life and you are not going to go back.
But how do you find that lifestyle change motivation? It can be a difficult task to figure out, but if you want a better life then you won’t be able to find change without starting at motivation. Motivation is the furnace, the fuel, the fire that pushes you and helps you overcome the obstacles — because there will always be obstacles — and achieve the life that you really want.
The good news is that there are often several ways to get to the same positive place, so if you’ve tried to find that lifestyle change motivation you need and failed, don’t let it get you down. There are many options to help you find that drive to get you to your version of a perfect life!
Remember People Naturally Love to Help Others
If part of the struggle is finding a purpose that excites you, then you may want to look towards others. This approach also works very well for individuals who have struggled with depression or self-worth. Maybe you don’t need to dig inside first – maybe your passion can come from others.
If you have children or a loving spouse, frame the change as something you’re doing for them, to give them the amazing gift of you at your best. Even if you’re not with someone or don’t have kids, are you an aunt or uncle? Do you have cousins? What friends have always been there for you and what do you wish you could do for them?
By nature people love to help others. You may find yourself struggling to improve your own life when you think of yourself, but when imagining buying a toddler nephew his first car or Mom a little retirement home, the motivation suddenly pops up.
Let your mind wander. If money were no object and if you were capable of anything, whom would you help? How would you do it? What idea excites you? Write down anything that really grabs you during your brain-storming.
Create Your Ideal You
This isn’t just a rah-rah recommendation. Actually visualize the way you see your perfect self: write down the details of the hair, body, tattoos (or not), and throw in some flair. Do you perceive yourself as a barbarian? A wizard in a D&D universe, a smooth-talking cross between Michael Westen and Sam Axe from the TV show Burn Notice?
Write down what you see when you envision you as you want to be and then don’t just keep that as a visual picture! Get an artist friend to draw your vision – or learn to draw and do it yourself.
Imagine yourself as a D&D character build. Why do you like this or that fictional TV character? Be specific. Don’t just say “charismatic.” Okay – is it the lack of fear approaching the opposite sex? Having the skill set to be amazingly self-confident?
Hone in on those details and imagine yourself and the life that you want. That should be your picture to keep in mind when it is time to focus in and really motivate yourself.
Dream Boards to Visualize
Being able to take your dreams and put them in a visual form is critical to lifestyle change motivation. The more clearly you can “see” what excites you, the more likely you are to find that encouragement and energy that you need to make a major life change. Building a “dream board” is the practice of cutting out magazine pictures, or printing out pictures from online, and assembling a collage on a board that you then concentrate on. The pictures should mean something to you.
Money, if you dream of being rich. A person jumping for joy on the beach, if you want to overcome depression. Do you see a dream home? Cut that out and put it on the board. Encouragement, future homes, six-pack abs, a beautiful chapel scene for a wedding – whatever speaks to you personally is what you need up on the wall.
When you can see what a better lifestyle can bring you every time you wake up in the morning and go to bed (or sit in your home office) then you are more likely to feel inspired and make working on yourself a habit.
Keep an Unedited Journal
A problem many people have with getting truly motivated to create a better lifestyle is that they aren’t completely honest. For this reason, you should keep a completely unedited journal writing about your future life.
Keep it private and don’t censor yourself at all. If you’re worried about someone finding it, have a lock box with two locks on it if you need to, and hide the box, but write it out in 100% complete honesty. Re-read the passages you write. Add to them. You are writing about your own future life and when you are honest and not pressured by others you might be amazed what really comes out.
Once you find your true desires and are unashamed then you can power forward with changing your life because you actually are working towards what excites you!
Learn To Love The Grind
One of the best motivational speakers to listen to for this one is Eric Thomas, aka “The Hip-Hop Preacher.” Some people find it’s not necessarily the goal that excites them but the growth, the feeling of movement, the feeling of improvement.
Learning to love the process and love the grind is a great way to reach that constant self-improvement. and falling in love with the process will pay incredible dividends.
Even if you’re not completely sure what your purpose is, what you want, or where you want to go, if you can fall in love with the work of self-improvement you will find yourself in an amazing place while you figure out those other questions.
Lifestyle change motivation is always a tricky challenge, especially since the things that most motivate one individual might mean absolutely nothing to another. However, everyone can take steps to figure out their own goals, really take hold of what makes them tick, and move towards the type of change and self-improvement that lead to a much better life.